Yet, hate is out there.
Hate seems to arise from a classic mistake: The inability to see above your level.
Fear arises.
Then, from fear, the creation of “the Other that must be
destroyed for the world to be better. “
Classically seen within the extreme fundamentalist practices of any
religion.
Look at the wars today.
What about several notches lower? What about dislike?
Out of dislike comes unkindness.
Many years ago I was uncomfortable with very overweight
individuals.
Some of this came from my parent’s comments about overweight
people when I was young.
Later I sat with this dislike. What I found was this dislike was my
projection.
I was afraid of my own “hungry ghost,” my own tendency
toward overconsumption.
I was projecting this lower level of being onto others.
Now I see the overweight individual as perhaps more happy
than “the thin.” Maybe the term “fat and
happy” has some merit.
Actually, I feel there is a lot of sadness. Perhaps what I really see is that overweight
individuals tend to be more forgiving of others.
When I was a kid I was flabbergasted that people were unkind
to each other.
I still maintain some of that “innocence.” But, now, at a higher level of
understanding.
I now realize that unkindness usually arises when the ego is
threatened.
Remember, there are only 3 basic emotions; a pull towards, a
pushing away, and ignorance.
It is fine to have preferences.
Within radical acceptance, we accept the whole person. We may dislike some parts of their behaviors
or actions, but we love the whole package.
The corollary to radical acceptance is also we have an
obligation to leave, if we don’t love the whole package.
Here, I am talking about intimate relationships and life
partners.
But, what about “lesser relationships?”
What about colleagues or “friends” where we really don’t
like the whole package?
Again, perhaps, we might inquire about the origin of that
dislike.
Is it us?
Are we projecting part of ourselves that we don’t like very
much, our hidden shadow?
Perhaps we are not seeing above our level? Fear arises.
Now we can bring back The 3 Commandments:
There is only One Source.
Love Everything. Have Fun.
The problem is often within Love Everything. There we find the classic errors.
How do we find out what is really going on?
I like to start with Metta and Tonglen.
Metta helps the generation of love.
Tonglen may help in the burning away of the ego.
Powerful stuff.
Then I use meditative sitting, and often journaling about
those feelings of dislike.
There are difficult people, perhaps those with personality
disorders, and those who are psychopathic and truly dangerous.
Within radical acceptance we can make a choice to spend time
with hateful toxic individuals. That is
a very high practice.
But, only do this if it does not hurts you. Only if you are strong enough.
But, there is no reason for hate.
Really, there is no reason for dislike.
They are all You.
There is no “Other.”
We are all parts and pieces of this great unfolding of the
Cosmos.
All is Source.
When you hate, or dislike, you are only hating or disliking
your Self.
It is said that the only cure for hate is Love.
I believe that is true.
And, the only cure for dislike is also Love.
When we fully love ourselves with radical acceptance, there
is no hate or dislike.
Wishing you all the ability to see deeply.
The ability to see truly.
Out of deep true assessment arises Wisdom.
Out of Wisdom, arises Compassion.
Namaste
